I am growing increasingly disappointed with the expectations of American culture. The slope is, indeed, slippery and, I believe measurable. I am basing this on my personal observations, but I do believe that a scientific study would demonstate a clear deterioration of the ”common moral standard”.
Clearly, to study morality in America would require a standard measured over time. However, we have deteriorated enough now that what once was considered “good” and “right” is now considered “obsolete”, “bad”, even “wrong”. In fact some world views that were once considered good are now defined as “evil” by people who deny the existance of evil. This may make the use of a standard measure impossible.
Enough background rambling and on to a juxtaposed series of observations that bring me to this conclusion.
I recently watched “Back to the Future”. In and around the flying Delorian time machine are two love stories. The first, set in 1954, and showing the 1980′s understanding of 1950′s morals. Back then “good girls” didn’t and “good boys” didn’t ask. Marriage was the expected outcome of a dating relationship, with children soon to follow.
The second love story is set in the movie’s current time, 1984. A piece of the drama for the young lovers (Marty and Jennifer) was their need to sneek off to the lake for a tryst. Their parents wouldn’t understand. However, despite the clear shift shown in the ideas of premarital sex, the expected outcome of their relationship was marriage and children. In fact, Jennifer becomes giddy at the thought of planning a big wedding. Having married in that same year, I can tell you that the common theme among my peers was that sex was special and should only be “with someone you love”.
Flash forward to the “Sex Signals” training I recently witnessed at the Army ROTC’s Leadership Development Advance Course. It is based largly on the Army’s “Sexual Assault and Response Program” training and is designed to help soldiers recognize the point where “no” means “stop”–the point beyond which consensual action turns into a felony.
The training involves improvisational actors who role-play common situations, who use adult language and actions, to best communicate with today’s college student-ROTC cadet audience. Using this as a current measure of the concept of sexual morality, it is apparently expected that today’s 18 to 24 year old casually “hooks up” based on physical attraction and primal desire. There is no expectation of relationship beyond the exchange of bodily fluids and phone numbers to better facilitate the next “booty call”.
Further, sexuality is portrayed as the primal need of all beings, therefore, denying your sexuality for more than a moment is wrong. The actors talked about simply asking permission as a way to create clarity between the couple. “Would you like to have sex with me?” said one actor. “Why, yes–yes I would,” responds the other. “Great” she says, “lets get it on.” There was no (and apparently in today’s world there is not an) option to say, “yes I would. But I believe it is something special that should be saved for my husband/wife.” The view of sexuality shown is the perfect display of the true state of mankind, “incurvatis in se” or, “curved into one’s self”. In fact, the actions described fall short even of sex. It would be better described as corporate masturbation.
OK. Got it. The culture has shifted. If we were to put a “common moral standard” on the table, we could point to that inconvienent command that “thou shall not commit adultery”. Three separate points of reference show a shift from “good girls don’t” to “good girls do with their true love”, and beyond to “girls do to complete themselves”, and “guys do with anything that will” because “that’s just who they are”.
Why the shift? Blame the pill. Blame changes to laws that respect the sanctity of marriage such as the abolition of common law marriage. And blame the media.
Since the invention of the mass communication devices of the 20th century, television and radio has been used to influence our actions. We are sold goods and services by advertisments– and we are sold world views (with great intent) through messages in movies, music, and television.
Back to the Future can be used again as an example. The notion that premarital sex was expected and common was, at that time, a bit of a shock. But shock wears off with repetition. Then the purveyors of moral deconstruction up the amperage and the erosion continues.
Looking forward, I am curious what the next shock will be. When all that was once considered “wrong” is now considered ”right”, perhaps someday what is now “right” will someday be “wrong”.